There's been a lot of talk about the mental health struggles that many young athletes face, the pressures and expectations that can seem overwhelming -- especially to those who feel compelled to shield their pain from the outside world.
Let's keep the conversation going.
There's so many more to reach, so many more who need to know they're not alone.
Sadly, it won't come soon enough to help three female college athletes who took their own lives in the past two months, leaving behind unbearable grief for their family and friends and inevitable questions about what could've been done to show how much they had to live for.
Katie Meyer was a soccer goalkeeper who helped Stanford win a national championship.
Sarah Shulze was a runner at Wisconsin who earned All-Big Ten academic honors in track and cross country.
Lauren Bernett was a catcher on the James Madison softball team who had just been picked as the Colonial Athletic Association's player of the week.
All three, gone.
This is not to ask why, as perplexing as that question may be to so many of us who weren't privy to what any of them were going through.
Instead, let's renew our commitment to helping those in need, to be ever-vigilant for even the slightest sign that someone is struggling, to approach them with love and compassion rather than judgment and condemnation.
That approach is especially important to those who are such accomplished athletes.
As we've learned from athletes including Olympic gold medal gymnast Simone Biles and tennis star Naomi Osaka, one's worth as a human being shouldn't be determined by wins and losses.
"There's always this need to ask, 'Why? Why? Why?'" said Jane Timmons-Mitchell, an associate clinical professor of psychology at Case Western Reserve University in Cleveland. "I put a bigger emphasis on the, 'What?' What can we do about it? How can we be the most help and the most effective."
To that end, when someone is pondering whether to end their life, she said, it's vital "just to empathize with what they're going through, to try to get around to their side of things, to look at it through their eyes so we can find a way to help them."
Meyer was 22 when she committed suicide at her campus residence on March 1.
On the field, she memorably thwarted two penalty shots to help the Cardinal defeat North Carolina in the 2019 national championship game. In the classroom, she was a senior majoring in international relations.
Her father, Steve Meyer, told NBC's Today show that she was possibly distraught over the prospect of disciplinary action from the university for "defending a teammate on campus over an incident." Whatever the case, the suicide left a hole for her loved ones that will never truly heal.
"We're struggling right now," her mother, Gina Meyer, told Today. "We are struggling to know what happened, and why it happened. We're just heartbroken, so heartbroken."
Shulze was 21 when she took her life on April 13. In addition to her success as an athlete and student, family members said she had interned with the Wisconsin state legislature and volunteered as a poll worker during the 2020 presidential election.
"Balancing athletics, academics and the demands of everyday life overwhelmed her in a single, desperate moment," her family said in a statement. "Above all other things, Sarah was a power for good in the world."
Bernett was the 20-year-old cleanup hitter for the James Madison softball team. On Monday, she was honored as CAA player of the week for batting .778 with seven RBIs and four runs in a three-game weekend sweep of Drexel that pulled the Dukes within a game of league-leading Delaware.
On Tuesday, the school announced her death. The local sheriff said it was being classified as an apparent suicide, though the investigation is continuing and no further details have been released.
Suicide is one of the leading causes of death on college campuses, and student athletes often walk a delicate mental tightrope attempting to balance classwork and athletics. With the media exposure that many top-level programs get, the pressure to succeed is even greater.
For female student-athletes, there can be additional stresses such as eating disorders, brought on by issues over weight and body image.
"We know female athletes are at higher risk for eating disorders," said Dr. Jessica Moore, a psychiatrist at Dallas' UT Southwestern Medical Center who has published research on the stresses of college life. "If you have an untreated eating disorder, you're much more at risk for suicide attempts."
Like Timmons-Mitchell, Moore said it's more important to address the societal barriers that can affect mental health treatment, rather than scrutinizing an individual, often-isolated decision to take one's life.
"'Why?' is a complicated question, and it's likely multi-faceted," Moore said Friday in a telephone interview. "It's more helpful to think about what systemic things might play a role. How do we improve access to care? How can we ensure that someone is not being stigmatized for seeking help? How can we ensure they have time to go to counseling appointments in order to get help?"
The COVID-19 pandemic only exacerbated the mental health struggles that many college students were already facing.
Student-athletes were certainly not immune to the devastating impact.
"One of the things that goes on in a pandemic is the incredible isolation," Timmons-Mitchell said. "For athletes, they may begin to feel that their only contact with others is through their competitive venture. Even as much as you may love it ... you can begin to feel that's your only identity.
"It's really the perfect storm."
We can only hope that others aren't swept away by that storm. Come July, the country is set to launch a new 988 number for the suicide prevention hotline, which should make it easier for those in need to get help..
In the meantime, let's keep talking about Katie. And Sarah. And Lauren.
May their deaths not be in vain.
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Paul Newberry is a national sports columnist for The Associated Press. Write to him at pnewberry(at)ap.org or at https://twitter.com/pnewberry1963
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FILE - Stanford guard Haley Jones wears tape on her wrist with "KM19," honoring the school's soccer team goalkeeper Katie Meyer, while driving the ball against Oregon State during an NCAA college basketball game in the quarterfinals of the Pac-12 women's tournament March 3, 2022, in Las Vegas. There has been a lot of talk about the mental health struggles that many young athletes face, the pressures and vulnerabilities that can seem overwhelming — especially to those who feel compelled to shield their pain from the outside world. (AP Photo/David Becker, File)
FILE - "LB #22," in honor of James Madison softball catcher Lauren Bernett, is written on the infield behind Liberty pitcher Emily Kirby, right, during an NCAA college softball game against Tennessee at Liberty Softball Stadium in Lynchburg, Va., April 27, 2022. There has been a lot of talk about the mental health struggles that many young athletes face, the pressures and vulnerabilities that can seem overwhelming — especially to those who feel compelled to shield their pain from the outside world. (Kendall Warner/The News & Advance via AP, File)
FILE - "LB #22," in honor of James Madison softball catcher Lauren Bernett, is written on the infield behind Liberty pitcher Emily Kirby during an NCAA college softball game against Tennessee at Liberty Softball Stadium in Lynchburg, Va., April 27, 2022. There has been a lot of talk about the mental health struggles that many young athletes face, the pressures and vulnerabilities that can seem overwhelming — especially to those who feel compelled to shield their pain from the outside world. (Kendall Warner/The News & Advance via AP, File)