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Woman discovers a pair of siblings she never knew

October 2, 2022 at 10:00 p.m.

Dear Abby: I am a 49-year-old woman who never had a father in my life. He was gone shortly after my mother announced she was pregnant. When she contacted him via his family to let him know I was born, he said he didn't care, he was already with someone else and she was pregnant.

I have always known his name and that he lived in Ohio. Well, thanks to technology, I found him. I would look him up every so often. I just learned he died seven months ago. I saw from his obituary that I have two brothers.

I'm not sure what, if anything, to do. If they don't know about me, wouldn't that be a shock? I haven't told my mother anything about this. I'm not sure how, to be honest. So where am I supposed to go from here? -- Feeling Lost And Confused

Dear Feeling Lost: You should discuss the fact that you have been searching with your mother. It's long overdue, and she may be able to share more details with you. If you were seeking the father you never had, he was gone long before his death, and for that I am sorry. If you are looking for a family relationship with your half-brothers, the chances of you finding one are slim. They may have never been told about their father's "past."

What a healthy person would do is build a family of your choosing, with friends who are caring and supportive, and concentrate on the future rather than the past.

Dear Abby: "Seeking Help in Texas" (July 19) sought assistance for her 24-year-old grandson with Asperger's syndrome and a bipolar diagnosis. He could apply for career counseling and job placement services from the Vocational Rehabilitation agency serving job seekers with disabilities in his state. In Texas he could contact 800-628-5115 or visit

Residents in other states can find their VR agencies at Job seekers are generally eligible for VR Services if they have a physical, mental or visual disability that is a barrier to employment and need vocational rehabilitation services to get or keep a job.

Other employment-related services could include training or college education assistive technology, self-employment programs and other programs needed to reach career goals. Vocational rehabilitation programs introduce or reinstate people with disabilities into the workforce, create taxpayers and reduce dependence on disability benefits and government assistance.

The workplace could also be a great place for the young man to meet people and possibly develop socially, which was a concern in the letter. -- Jody Harlan, Oklahoma Dept. Of Rehabilitation

Andrews McMeel Syndication

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